Joint lease - how to get along in one apartment?

            

Renting a room or sharing an apartment with colleagues and friends often solves a lot of problems. You pay half as much as renting an apartment alone. You can afford to live closer to the city center. You pay only half of the maintenance. You can go on vacation and ask neighbors to water the flowers. But all the advantages are crossed out if you have bad relations with neighbors. How not to swear with neighbors and what should always be kept in mind when renting an apartment together?

When you live in the same territory with other people, then you "own" not the entire apartment, but only your room, and therefore you should respect the personal space of those around you. You can manage at home, but for public areas in a rented apartment (kitchen, hallway, bathroom with toilet) you need to work out common behavioral schemes.

Imagine being in a family-type hotel or hostel. There are certain rules that all the guests accept. A toothbrush, lying on the washing machine, or dirty dishes in the sink may become the cause of serious conflict. In order to avoid problems, we must immediately agree with neighbors in the apartment about the rules of conduct.

How to decide who is in charge in the apartment?

It's very simple: if everyone rented a room or rented one apartment together, then the main thing is not there, they are all equal. To ensure that the sense of equality does not disappear, the rules should suit every inhabitant. Do not avoid talking about the norms of behavior in the hope that everything will be fine. Poorly organized life surprisingly is able to destroy any relationship, even very intelligent and polite people.

Agree on the conditions of cohabitation better in a neutral territory. This is suitable for a public place like a kitchen, or a cafe. When the negotiations are over, you can open a bottle of champagne and celebrate the fact that you managed to find a common language.

How to avoid scandals and conflicts?

When renting a room, it is better to choose people with similar views and way of life. But you can not foresee everything, and in time you will discover their new sides. You can work with the schedule "five in two", and the neighbor - "two in two". One get up at seven in the morning, and the other has a party with music and guests. One does not like to wash dishes in the evenings and leaves it in the sink until morning, and the second does not tolerate the kind of unclean kitchen. How not to quarrel?

The only way is to discuss problems and find compromises.

The main mistake that you can make in this situation is to remain silent and save your irritation. Sooner or later the cup of patience will overflow, and then you can not calmly discuss the problems, but simply quarrel. And there is little that can spoil life as an open confrontation with neighbors in a common apartment.

The best means for solving everyday conflicts are humor and clear agreements. All of us are not perfect; most likely, you will find out that you also do not like your cohabitants with something. Do not be rude, do not go to the person and do not insult neighbors in a rented apartment. Be frank, but benevolent.

Remember that in the next room does not live a maniac who set out to make your life unbearable, but the same person as you, with your habits and characteristics.

Practical advice for those who rent an apartment together

1. Make a cleaning schedule

Agree on a convenient schedule for everyone and place the schedule in a public place (classics - on the refrigerator). There will be no grounds for conflicts, because it will be impossible to "forget" about their turn.

1. Determine the time for guests

If you do not live in a squat where there are round-the-clock circulations of human flows, then it is worth negotiating a convenient time for the reception of guests. In cases where your plans change and you get out of the schedule, do not be lazy to warn your neighbors about it and get their consent for an unscheduled visit.

1. Respect each other's personal space

Never go without knocking into someone else's room, do not be obtrusive. You can chat over a cup of tea in the evening, but if your neighbor goes into the room, then do not go after him and continue the conversation on his territory.